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Episode #30: Dr Travis W Fox star of from How Thoughts Become Things movie

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Dr Travis W. Fox - Actor, Producer, Director, Author. Dr Fox is a Hollywood veteran who has appeared on a variety of programs, including ABC's "One Life to Live," Talk Soup, The Nashville Network, Resorts Networks, Man, and The Golf Channel. Stars in movie How Thoughts Become Things and the producer of The Umbrella Man

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Hi that I'm welcome back for another episode of life of Cointeasmin and today I have a very special guest with me today and his name Travis Books, and he's a new start in a new film called how thoughts become things. So it's okay, you introduce yourself to our listeners. Sure, my name is Dr Dravis Fox, but you can call me travis because I prefer that. I'm the CO founder and CEO of the architects of being online training academy and Training and teaching for thirty years around the world, and I'm a spiritual being having a human experience like most of you. So that's it. That's an amazing well, that's not it. You've got more to come, and so let's get started with the first question. So what your success habits? My Success Habits, great question. My success habits are based on a defining what success is. When I was you know my s and s and even in my early success has very different meanings. So the first thing I do is redefine what success is. Now, success when I was twenty ment you know all the material things, cars, houses, you know RV's, tours, tour dates, speaking, gigs. Okay, great and my s. Now it's about for me, my success habit is getting up every day and making sure that I'm in alignment with my architect my heart. I found that when I don't do that, boy do I just run into a really strange brick walls that. You know, those are painful lessons that I don't want to learn again a repeat. So My siccess habit is staying true to the to my heart, but also too, I've surrounded myself with my architect council, and these are students that I've trained who are teachers themselves now, many years into their journey, and I have this beautiful accountability where we meet at least three times a week and we reflect with each other. Just because I'm the founder, in the CEO of this big organization doesn't mean that I'm perfect. I'm not. In fact, quite the opposite, I'm perfectly in perfect and so having those two things in alignment as really kept me on course and on track of creating a million architects that we've been creating. So that's what's what I do. That's amazing. Like one of the things that you said, where you meet up with them and you're your CEO as well, most people don't really acknowledge going back with the people that they've taught. They just think that well, I've taught them. They shake nice like acknowlish me in some things they've done. But the thing that you do is you go back and you talk to them and explain what your differences are, what the challenges you've had. So that's amazing. Thank you. Yeah, I'm I'm a difference CEO. My last book called architect that was designed on how I've helped many companies build their businesses and it's not, you know, the traditional model, which is the CEOS of the top and everybody's below. The CEO minds a reverse. I'm at the bottom, the CEOS of the bottom and we go up. No different than the logo of our company, Helix Man, it's I'm at the bottom. My job is to empower people, to make sure that they're in the right position, that they're meeting the needs of their journey for what they want to do, how we're co creating, that they're in the right department, that they're servicing online and on our with their architective. Most important, get all the way. Just because I'm the CEO and doesn't mean I know everything. That's and just because I've taught them doesn't mean I know everything. It just means I taught you this system. You have to follow your architect to our job, excuse me, our job is to make sure that we're in alignment with each other for this massive community we built, because our job is to keep continuing to offer them better teaching skills, more immersive how to make more money, how to build their brands and how to architect their life in the lifestyle. So yeah, it's a completely different model, but it's lot more a lot more fun, I can tell you that. But it's amazing because, like what you said, some of the other businesses, like the CEO's, are at the top and the other people at the bottom. But what's different about yours, which I when you like, is you're not only at the bottom, you'll also teaching people like where they go wrong, to teach them where they can go right and some of the diferences that they may so that's amazing. Thank you. Yeah, well, I think too. If I can just kind of dovetail on that, I don't teach from a right or wrong anymore. I teach from a want. Don't want because I've learned that if I say hey, by the way, you know what, that's wrong, wrong according to whom? Right? Well,...

...may be wrong according to me, but that might be information that their architect is giving them. That might be right for where they are, and there's an entire community within the within the academy, that does listen to them and follow and should that. They're their students. Are I mean, yes, they're my students, the factor, but they taught them. I didn't teach them anymore. I taught, you know, my students and my job is to develop the academy and be on great shows like yours and develop the films and make the make more and more students aware of their architects. And so I think that when I moved from right or wrong to just want and don't want, it changes everything. Plus the dynamic. You respect the person that you journey with, you know and you put your life in their hands, because we all cocreate the university together. Just because I'm the CEO and I run the entire company doesn't mean I don't listen. There's been many times where I went, you know, I think I should go here, and then my architects reflect back go all of us are having this weird feeling and so I go, you know what, stop lesson to Travis Fox. We're going to listen to what this lists architect is. Architects far smarter than Travis Fox all Erity. So it's really been a different model and that model has exploded and I've actually invited three other companies to do the same thing and I've trained them and I've consulted for them and their business is exploded to because we change the model. It's not this, it's this. This is unlimited. This is limited, because it always stops with that one person here. It goes wide and as far as you want to go, then never limit. So it's a different content. Wow, like I've never really thought of it that way because, like, not only people have the triangles, as she says, that businesses, but yours goes that way. So it can only expands. So, Ye, it's amazing. Yeah, I mean want why not have unlimited? We're going to say you're going to be an unlimited company? Right, then be unlimited and train from that point to view. Lived have the culture that way, but also to each of us as individuals lives it that way. Now we don't lose our individualism, but we are being true to our own architect because we all understand the same teachings and philosophies and excess and actual science that we've built into the academy. I mean, this is thirty years so what wasn't like? Also, I was like your age and say hey, I'm going to go be a CEO of an academy and be this worldwide thing. I'm like twelve years old, I'man. I was your age. I was trying to put one foot in front of the other. You guys are far more advanced than I was, for sure. I mean your family's dynamic through fans and so when when I shifted the model and even wrote the last book, and you can go get them. You know, it's an audible book. You can get them downloaded and not listen to yourself. But at bottom line is is like, wait a minute, the CEO doesn't mean that you're the end all be all. What it's quite the opposite. Your job is to make everyone else the end all be all, empower them and to manage their decisions from where they're coming from, from the information they getting, only from themselves, but from the data they employ, from their students and what they're doing and all of a sudden, now it becomes a collective right. We're working together to make it bigger and there's no eagle involved because as it gets bigger, everybody participates. So there's no Oh, I didn't get mine. Well, how come I on to get to get to senior vice president and they're there. That's done. Now it's your both senior vice president, and guess what, the people of you. They're even bigger than you all the wow right. So it creates a completely different model. It's non competitive but completely cooperative. Is really like amazing. Thank you. Like I haven't do more was to say because, like I think that you've completed the sentence. So that's gone to the next question. So so what mistakes have you made along the way and what did you then from them? I don't think the show's long enough for me the answer all that question. I've made probably five or six mistakes since I've been on the show already. I just haven't figured them out yet. I'll say the biggest mistake that I think that I employed, and I work a lot with teams. We have a whole program that's dedicated to teams. Because my my passion is to change the educational system and teach what we teach in architect academy as a part of natural schooling. You know, the longest single relationship will ever have in our life as with ourselves. And yet that's the last thing we teach people. Makes no sense to me. And like it's again, it's like this model, this model makes sense. This model doesn't make sense. We've tried that model for a couple hundred years. Doesn't work. All right, so let's let's re reprogram I think the biggest mistake that I made just when I was your age was that I grew up, you know, in in film and Television, performing and also in sports. So is always about performing...

...and I had it. I had to work really hard on being authentic, and I think your generation suffers from it in a much more dynamic way because of social media. Yeah, and things like Youtube and tick Tock, all these massive platforms. We can get a lot of people to follow you, but the question becomes, do you lose who you are in an effort to become the all what the audience wants? More likes, more followers, more whatever, and I get that from a certain point view, but you lose you along the way and then you lose sight of what is really you and what is this projected you. And so I think the biggest mistake I learned when I was younger was that, for example, I played golf for all the wrong reasons. I was playing for my father, but I spent, you know, almost twenty years of my life playing golf so that my dad would give me love and approval and an out of boy. Most of the time he didn't, and so I was constantly in this motive performing, perform me, perform me, because what I really wanted was my dad to go a kid. You did it all right, I'm really proud of you. Just an atiboy once in a while. That wasn't my father's generation. My father's generation was these either number one or there's nothing. I'm like, well, that's interesting. Well, there's a hundred and fifty six other guys that are just as good as Golfer as I am, and I'm not perfect. I can't control everything in there, and so the more and more I try to become perfect for my father to get the approval, the more pressure I put on my game, the more I put on performance, the more I started losing who I really was and why I didn't play the game. So I did in aboute your generation is especially with big, powerful shows like yours. We have thousands and thousands of followers and people start saying, well, I want to hear this and I want to hear that, and we get into fear of well, what if they don't follow me anymore? What if they don't, who cares? That's you following your true north, your true architects heart, and get in touch with what you're really doing it, for why you're doing it and, most importantly, stay true to it. Because, guess why, when you start wanted off and do whatever else want you to, you will never make the audience completely happy, you will never get their total approval and, more important, you lose your own, like what you were talking about about getting your fads approval. Many kids nowadays just want their parents approval to say, Hey, you did that right and I want to acknowned you for that. And like a long time ago, me and my brothers used to do that to our debt reachoot. We used to try and get approval from him, but wasn't really getting it in the right way at just say and as in my own two and saw it taking us to personal development events. We then learned that the most important and the most important thing in life is getting approve it from yourself. You don't need to worry about getting approval from other people because if they won't give you that approval, you need to at least give that prove to yourself to know that at you did do it, you tried, but maybe that isn't for you. So that's on. Yeah, I I'm a super fan of your family. I think I think your mom did you guys a great service and it's a end. You know, it's a passion of mind and part of what this film is about is let's change the educational system, like in the architects of being academy. It is a true academy, but we took entertainment, we took education, we put it together and then we put it in the system that's interactive. I mean people, we learn interactively, right. We don't learn from reading a book, although you do, you don't learn from watching a video. That's still you haven't to interpret the information. You don't get real time feedback. I don't understand. How do I can ask more questions like a dive into. So ours is interactive. So I like what you guys are doing. I like that your mom did that. And part of what I'm seeking, especially with your age bracket, which is, you know, we have the jumping kids and the jumping teens, and that's these programs that teach how to I live with myself. How do I understand why these thoughts? Where do these thoughts come from? Because I wouldn't think those thoughts. a positive mental attitude. No, no, you don't write. First of all, what's positive and what's negative? Who determines that? Right? So, if we start boiling this down to a really fun experience, so wait a minute. My personal development is the journey of my lifetime. I don't have to have it all figured out. And you know, a twelve and fifteen and sixteen years old. And also we need to figure out your life and get responsible. I just figured out how to do my laundry. Can we relax for a second? They calm down right. What if we took it from approach of if I took you and I took your own family, I said, you know what, this entire week this is all we're going to focus on. I'm going to teach you the difference between a decision and a choice. I'm going to show you how, every single freaking time,...

...you're going to know the difference if you're just following a program of your mind or you're truly following your guts and know how to do that, how to unwind it. That alone changes the wealth of your lifetime. You now have a wealth skill that can never be taken from you, doesn't matter where. You have money, lose money, had money lose me believe, and I've done it both multiple times, and believing heavy money is better than not. I agree, I get that. However, you can't lose a wealth skill. You cannot use it, but that's a choice of your own, but you can't lose it. You can lose money, you can lose your house, lose a car, loser relationship, whatever. Fine, but if you have a wealth skill, there's a security that comes with that. And going time out, I can know how to recreate this because I'm the architect and I think if we really start taking that generation, your generation particular, which is where my passion is, and we make that education as a part of it. It changes that now I'm not trying to get your approval. I'm just being me, and I guess what me being me will attract, naturally, the other people that are in that same experience. I don't have to work for it. And now we go from powerful effort, got to grind, got to get up and got to get the likes. You got to do your production schedule, and I know I've been in film and Television my whole life. Right or just to go. It's an effortless power. I just show up and be me and then I let life take this beautiful journey and I get too architected and experience it in the exact same time before it's over, because it goes back Pretty Dang quick. And like one of the things that you explain before about social media, like the last time I've been on social media was like being yesterday because, like the whole of the week, I've been trying to write a new upcoming book that's coming out very soon. So, yeah, many kids do lose themselves through social media as well and trying to be something that they're not. And, like most people, you would see online doing the things that other people may want to do but then when you go to their life, when you switch to their lifestyle, you would see that the lies of that, the living and the lifestyle that they're portraying on social media doesn't really match up. And Not saying that you have to judge people, but if you want to be someone and to share and things that you really liked with other people, then why not be true to that instead of having two different realities and trying to live one the right way and then you've got enough reality that you have to like stay with. So that's I think you should be an architect. I was great. I'm not my verse. I've got no words. I'm like what she said. Let's never I agree. Thank you. And so the next question. What was the hardest decision you ever had to make and why? The hardest decision I ever had to make is when I left being Dr Fox. I my surrendered my degrees and said, you know, doctor doesn't make me anymore of Travis. Travis is enough. The hardest decision was to walk away from a career I had built and been very successful at that, and having to turn to my now xwife, who is a very different of mine, and her husband. We're still very good friends. To This Day, I dr weekly, but I had to say, look, I'm tired of being Dr Fox because I built this image of what university and stage and performing it taught me to be was. I had to have all the answers, I had always look good. I did, the perfect wife and the kids and the dogs and you know, Blah, blah, blah, get on the inside. There was a part missing in the part was missing was the architect because you know, in university, yeah, great, I've got all these letters before and after my name, and that's really cool when you want to dinner reservation or when you want to sound important. But what university taught me was neck up. It taught me head, mindset. Well, that's great, but mind isn't run by mind. Mind is run by architect, your heart, and they don't really teach that because that becomes a different message. They confuse that with religion or philosophy or theology, none of which is accurate. It has an influence, of course, but that's not what it is. And so on. I when I had to make the decision to say I'm going to change my entire life, I'm going to walk away, because everyone thought I was nuts. They thought I lost my mind, and from a certain point of view, I did, and I needed to. And then I spent five years traveling around the world and sitting with great masters of all flow of walks of life, all religions, all philosophies, everywhere you can name.

I you know I've been, for the most part, obvious, but I say still need to go. But and I really stabbed them and said what's missing? What what I've done this journey for. You know a long time now what's missing, and it's missing heart. And it wasn't that I didn't have the passion for it. I love what I do and I love, you know, watching people wake themselves up now and I always have. But it's missing heart, my own, and that is because I was so busy being doctor Fox that I forgot who travis was. And again, so, as I encourage all the people of your generations, Mike, I know what steps it is, I know what Photoshop is, I know when your air brushed it and stop. You know what? I've earned all these wrinkles. There's a story and every single one of them. I earned this, this gray hair, there's stories and every single one of them, and there aren't stories, is because I want to sit around Campfire storys a go, you know, back on my day, where you're gonna know that don't know I'm talking about. I'm not their stories and lessons and when you truly how to architect a story, like we teach in architect mastery, we actually teach this as a as a tool on how to architect the story of your own and understand how to help someone else architect their own story, you become a master of understanding how to weave and architect a story, no different than as an author. Congratulations your book, by the way, and if I'll countershare, I'm actually tomorrow signing my next publishing to deal for my next three books myself. So I'm I'm working in. My next three years will be more dynamic than mine anyways. So good for you, but I'll send you a copy. You send me a copy, will do that. That's more fun the I think when you that. That decision, though, was very challenging, because I took I took a lot of judgment. There are a lot of my clients that were very upset with me because I helped build their companies and help build theaters and films and I think that was the hardest part. was was I willing to follow my own guts? Was I willing to stand? And it seemed like a loane. You're not alone, but it seems like you are when you do something like that, because it what it really does is it scares the crap out of other people and invites them to look at where am I not really living my life, and you almost become like a social disease to them. They're like, well, can hang around Travis show. He's that guy that got a little weird. He went and traveled the world and you know, I need to stick with my job that I really don't like and be a relationship that isn't really what I want and I got to Ke, you know, keep ignoring my kids and acting like I love them at the same time, because man, that's just too much. Yet here we are, you know, twenty years later now actually. Well, I almost went on or people now come background said Hey, man, how'd you do it? You can you show me how the architect the like? Of course, you know put you're going to go through that journey. It just now or then. You just choose when you're going to do it. I'm lust for words again, like everything you explained isn't like the way you explained about architecture isn't the way normally normal people would think of architecture as. So before I used to just think that architecture was about designing buildings, seeing what the different process is that you have to go through. But the way you explained it is deeper than what any would we, anyone would explain architecture about. And I'm treated like loss for was because, as I said before, people just look at the structure of how architectures formed, but you talk about how it comes from your heart, everything's from the mind and how you have to think through everything you do. So that is, if I may. Let me, let me put it in a simpler terms. We will we build a building, or when you build the house, like the House you're in, the House I'm in, it starts with the blueprint right, designed by an architect. Now we define architecture generally is a building, but when you think about the architect cities, you know we architect space travel. We architect how we get to how we get from work. For A car, we architect cars. How come we don't have a blueprint for our life? How come. We don't a blueprint that says this is what I want to experience and this chapter we're going to build this, and then you know over here we're going to build this, and it doesn't always go exactly as planet and no building does, but the way, even when you're building a building, there's things you have to do with, but you at least know how to architect your life, because if you can have a blueprint, then you can have everything now because you understand how to do it. More importantly, just like in the film, but deeper, what's driving it? What drives your blueprint? So architecture and architect of being is about architecting,...

...from your being an architect, the life that you want, starting with some of the most tangible things that you can see emuniar results, like how do I make more money, how do I build my business, how do I build a brand? How do I stay on point? How do I develop the passion that I really am and we do that. So you actually, when you go through our academy, as you get into an architects and training, which is your first big step into how do I build a business for myself, is we actually show you how to earn and learn the exact same time. Because what I found with schooling is you go to school and you get all these pieces of paper and you get these degrees, but you also have a lot of debt and then you go great, I got this paper, but I don't know how to, you know, write a resume or I don't know how to, you know, interview for a job. Because of people skills, I don't even know who I am what I really want. I just got this degree because they told me I needed a degree to go do something great. Now you're in debt and have a piece of paper, but still have no idea what you're doing, or vice versa. You try to go to the school of hard knocks, and that's great to except for down the road. You know, there are certain things that you don't know and you'll have to learn emotionally or you can get buried in the grind, you know, get get angry, resentful or get bitter, you know, go through the things. You know, I did too when I was younger. I was like, God mean Dr Fox as a pain in the butt. R know, was like that. I'm always having to be on. Yeah, but there's days I was tired. There's days I was exhausted. There's days like I have absolutely no idea what this person's talking about. I'm cinder going, I don't know. I tried to walk on water this morning but I sank. But if they find out about that it's going to ruin my whole image. And so you get this throw the self impost pressure. And, like you said, why try to be two people? It's difficult enough to just learn to be yourself, because it's constantly evolving and changing, no different than our architects logo. It keeps evolving until you go back to the infinite and sway. It's design that way, you know. But I think that's really the really interesting for people to look at. And then again they get to choose that. You won't want to experience that, you don't. You know one's okay, just don't that. Like one of the things I really really liked about what you said was when you said most people think of architecture and as having like a blue paint for what you could how you're going to build the house, but you said that people should have blueprints for how their last going to be. So that's some things that I think we're not from, like, example, if I were to can here to my dad's blueprint, I would be on the PGA tour playing. Yeah, I would be miserable because I coached for ten years on the tour. So I ended up doing it, but I just don't it's not my thing. I don't feel happy there. I don't feel a line. I don't like it. It's a job to me. That wasn't what I'm interested. I love what I do now. I still do sports, you know, coaching. I still so do sparts of sports architecture. I've done all the major sports and have a great time doing it, but I get to choose when I do it right. Those guys sports stars as they are. That's what they have to do. That's what they're contracted to do. I don't have to, but I don't want to coach, I don't. If I want to go, you know, work on television show or right on the book, I'm gonna write in the book. So there's a there's a freedom in that architectural space. But to a blueprint is a schematic right. It's an outline that says, okay, these things I want to experience. But more often than not it's, you know, the blueprint doesn't go exactly as planned. It never does, otherwise would be boring. And, more importantly, it doesn't have to look the way you think it does. And so what a blueprint architecture blueprint does as here's all the skills, here's how to create these experiences. Now, these experiences are going to be based on a theme, which is a theme B down here in your heart will show you how to do that exactly, step by step. But then, by the way, when it shows up, you'll know that that's the experience that you were exupposed to experience. But it may not look the way your brain will tell you it should look, but you still have the blueprint to experience it. And then, most more often not, it actually is more dynamic than what you thought it was, because this thing has a much bigger knowledge based than this thing ever will. This thing only learns and creates from the past. This creates from the infinite. That's a different experience and when you learn to use the two together, that's architecting. Now I think I want to study architecture like the way you explained it, makes it so interesting. Yeah, come on down, they the first three days are on us. You got no excuse. Go to the website architecting, three hundred and sixtyerocom pop in your email. It'll email you the first three days. You're going to go...

...through the first three days of the jumping experience. That's ninety minutes of real training, just like everyd else. Interactive, same concept. You can come into the the community. We have our own chats, we have our own profiles. All the architects there, your architective biasors there, and it's all free, because we all love to teach. And you get to experience meditation, you get text Yoga, singing bulls, you get it's all there. And then, if you want to truly become, you know, an architect, you can. You can get sign up, go to the class. Will Show you how to do it. If it's earned, as you learn. And by the way, it's interactive, so I do track you. I make sure you understand it and where you don't, we can help you really refine your learning and then refind who you are. So why not? If not, your listeners should do it too. If nothing else, take the take the quizzes. They're free. Learn what your passion is, learn where you're not passion learn what you're afraid of learn how to blueprint your life. The quizzes are all right there on our website. They're free, and then we're going to give you steps on how to at least do it. So again, I firmly believe once you experience architecting versus let's Say Life Coaching or in I'm just reading a book, you're going to go, AH, this makes total sense. Now I can start to create it, and then you're going to we're going to create wealth skills and use of did. You can go make money now. I mean you're already a published author, you have a show. My Gosh, I was doing that twelve years old. Jeff Beeso's that have nothing on me. I Maan. I'd may not be blown up, but the twelve years old I was too busy trying to figure out how to hit a seven iron. I was like, how do you get this this little white ball thing? What's this thing to do me? So you guys are light years ahead and I love working with architecting teens. I love architecting teams because that's when it gets in your DNA. It's a part of you for life, and that makes you wealthy because you can take that anywhere, any time, any place, to any situation and you always know how to architect you so you never ever feel lost from the perspective of what do I do? What's my path? How do I create money? That's what makes it exciting. So, yeah, if you want to the invitations there, go for it. Enter your listeners. It's there. Okay, I'm list that down down below. Everyone can go and check out your website. Thank you. You're welcome. And so the next question is, what step should people follow to help them, to help, forgive and then go on to live in life field of gratitude? The next one in front of them? I mean, I have a whole program called blueprint for healing. Go figure, right, but it's and as a step by step pross out to heal and how to heal your heart from, you know, a divorce or from a death, or from loss of a job or even a career, and loss of your Ideo who you think you are, loss of your identity that you constructed, by the way. But the next step in the funny thing is everyone tries to give fifteen steps. I'm kind of the you know, I'm the I'm the black sheep of the family. When it comes to the film, because I'm the guy that goes and if I hear one more person talk about you got to be light, you got to be enlightened, you got to get a waken the light within, I'm like, Oh, shut up that. You're already are light. You don't need to be more like the Sun. Isn't any more light than it is. It's light, it's like and it doesn't stop shining just because the earth turns around and we're in night. It's still shining. You already are light. What we need to work on really is all the layers of anger and guilt and frustration and shame and in security, that we've layered on top of our light, dimming our own light. Peeling those layers off first and Lo and behold TATA, the light you shines up when you get out of your own freaking way. If the problem is you're so busy trying to be like you keep creating more stuff in your way because you don't know how to get out of your own Dang Way. So it makes no sense. So I'll first of all any of you listening to me out there and the audience on the show. I'm the dark horse of the film. I'm the one that says time to go into the dark, we need to go under our truth, where we're hiding the truth from ourself. And until we do that, there's not going to be more light, there's going to be more talk about light and it's going to be a, you know, another thing of just ramble, lambled, lamble, but stop. So know that going in. If you guys come to the Academy, I'm a little bit different. Do I believe in light? Absolutely, but I believe you already are light. I don't think you need to become more of something you already are. You already are it. You just forgotten that. Secondly, I think the wet so busy trying to heal like well, if I do these sixteen steps, guess what Dravis Fox is. I'm going to be healed and dog on to people are going to like me know the next step to healing is the one in front...

...of you. That's it. There was a great swahiely saying if you ever go to the tons on the Africa, and I had the poor, great pleasure of going there and I got the summit Kilimanjaro for the first time in my life some of the mountain and it was the seventh tallest one, I found out later in the world. I got the Sun at Kilimanjaro and there's a great squaw Swahili saying that says poly polity, and it means it's lowly, slowly, or one step, one breath, because that's the only way you get off the mountain. The Mountains and Nineteen Thou three hundred and forty one feet above sea level. So it's difficult to breathe and it's freaking cold, and so the way that you get off the mountain is being super present. Holy Poly one breath, one step. That's it. Nothing else matters. That doesn't matter how far the summit is a way or how far to get back that only thing that matters is that one step, because that one step you have to be presently aware. Am I getting altitude sickness? Can I breathe, which, by the way, is difficult? Do I want to go forth the thoughts that come in your head? You want to know the thoughts that come in your head? Oh, climb the mountain. Trust me, they'll you'll show all the darkness will show up because every doubt insecurity, worry, fear, it shows up. The best part, the mountains. Not going to move to the mounds like I am moving. I've been here a billion years. You let me know when you're ready, so you really get to face yourself on a whole new way. So I think the next step for people to heal is one and it's okay to be hurt. It's not okay to stay hurt for the rest of your life because it is an experience. It is not a lifetime sentence. heartbreak does hurt, but you can heal it when you understand the lessons of that. The first step is to say okay, I'm hurt and be hurt. Men, we suck at that, by the way. We're terrible. We are terrible at it. And No, I can tell you my own personal wife. I wrote blueplinto healing based on me. It was my own journey and I told my students I took them one month sabbatical and I said I'm taking off from the academy. I'm not going to coach till all my clients. I said I'm going away for one month by myself, and I so quite stared myself in the middle of the desert of Mexico, out the middle of nowhere, and it was done on purpose so that I could really get to the clarity of things. And what did I need to heal? Even after all of my time on you know, as a teacher, you know I'm still on the I'm still on the planet to I'm still in the journey as well. Just because I'm the CEO the company doesn't mean I'm infallible. I'm you know, I'm still trying to figure things out too. So the blueprint of healing is really based on the first step, the first of his acknowledgement. And I am hurt and it's okay, and not that someone did it to you, it's just what you're experiencing. And then you get to look at where did that whole experience show up right, and what was it meant to teach you, because you were probably already heartbroken or hurt before the experience and you hadn't really worked through it the first time around. So now it becomes more dynamic, it becomes more powerful, because more intense as a way for your architect to get your attention, to go wake up. We're still walking around with all this hurt and all this shame and all this guilt and not being who really are, not really expressing our truth and doing in a way that doesn't have to be argumentative or convincing. So the first step is just acknowledging that you are and the recognizing there's a big lesson than that, and the question is, are you ready to heal? Is Amazing. Like one of the things that you're talking about acknowledging that you've been Huh, like, when I was at school, I used to be willied a lot for being kind to people, for helping people, and most people didn't really like that because, like some of the people that they bullied, I would go and help them and they didn't really like that and I then started to get bullied. And then I learned from that experience that helping people isn't a problem, but being there at the right time and with the right person, I should say, is true be something that's that would have changed my experience, and going to the personal development events that my mom took me to really help to shift my perspective of knowing where you stand and how you stand doing it. So yeah, that's amazing. Not Through thank you and so I absolutely love watching the movie. Health thoughts become things. And why do you think it's important for families to watch it together? All, good question. That's a question I...

...get a lot from a lot of different shows. My answer is because, parents, we've taken on the roll that were for the providers, were the authoritarians. We kind of have our stuff together. We don't kids know it. Especially today. Kids are super sharp because they have the Internet, they can there is anything they can look up and just kind of validate on their own. So parenting, I think it's taken on the role that it was originally intended to and is now come back full circle, which is my job as a parent, is really to teach you to follow your heart and then know the difference of that this film watching it together, the parents also get to go hmm. That's where my thoughts come from because, you know, there's Times where we get frustrated with our kids. You know, I used to joke with my kids and say, you're lucky our last name is not tiger because tiger eat. They're young. You know, I'm the luck. It's Fox and it was nice way. They're just saying, HMM, but what the child was really reflecting as part of me I hadn't worked out. And now, even though I knew that as Dr Fox, I didn't want admit it because that makes me not the parent and I'm not cool and my kids going to figure out that I'm just as messed up as they are, just on the parent right. They can't have. That blows my whole image. And so I think watching this as a film, it invites us to ask different questions. So when your child is struggling with something or being bullied or doesn't know who they are, they're struggling me puberties are really whack out. Time and our our experience we transition to that. It really helps us ask questions and helps them. We need from a parent with a child and then the child to the parent, both on expressionary level and sharing level. Where's this thought coming from? Where is it really coming from? because the thoughts not the issue. The thought is the final effect of what it's been happening way down here at the cause. But if we don't know, as parents, have to get inside and there's always been that thing when you're a teenager. The kids don't want to talk to their parents. This kind of opens that up in a whole new way because it opens up a non threatening not that mom and Dadd are right. We're not, we're wrong and they're better than us. They're going just because they you know, La Payd this is my house, and all that other crap the parents like to say. Throw that out the window because if you're really going to be a parent, we all know the same thing. As a parent, we want our kids to be happy and helping and enjoy their life, and this film opens up a family discussion where the parents don't have to have the answers, and either do the kids, but we both all are we all can together as a collective, find out where these things are coming from and then reflect with each other and see we're not as far apart as we actually think we are. That's amazing. Is there a final message that you'd like to you want to listeners and views with? HMM, good question. I would leave you with this. In the when you come to the architects of being academy and you decide you want to architect your life and you're ready for that, we're going to ask you two things, and one of them is called the noble truth, and it's the only truth I found on the planet that is consistent. No matter where you go, to, whom you speak with, doesn't matter. Everyone on the planet will agree to this, and that is the noble truth. Says, you're not getting off this planet a life period. So you're here for a period of time, whatever that time is. Most of us are marred in the thing called fear, and so when you recognize the fear that one day my life is going to end, then I have a zero conttrol of that is when you really get to face the darkness of yourself. Where do I hide from myself, from living fully out loud. And then we ask you the second question. If you had thirty days left to live, would you be doing anything you're doing on the planet right now? And if your answers no, stop it's not because it's right or wrong, positive or negative, good or bad, it's want or don't want. I want to experience this, I don't want to experience that, and just owning that start there. So if you can look at those two things of Hey, I'm not getting now this life alive and of course, now going through this global pandemic, it's really kind of brought that to the forefront again more dynamically, and we've all had to face that fear in some form or another, but it was inevitable. So isn't it time we face it and go hey, you know what, I'm not getting now, this life alive, these are things I don't want to experience anymore. Right, wrong, good or bad, or is is indifferent. I want to go experience x and let me go architect of my life and learn how to architecture like coming academy experiences, and that's what I'd say. Let's do. Otherwise, watch the film, find the teacher you resonate with and learn how your thoughts are becoming things, because you're still the architect no matter what. And I love that you asks the if you had dirty days to live, because, like,...

...if, what would you still be doing what you're doing now? Most people would answer no, but there's a majority of people that would answer yes. So if I was answer that question, I would still answer yes, because if I stopped then I wouldn't leave a mark on this earth. No one would know that I was still going on, that I was still doing the things that I was doing before. I did before I didn't have thirty days to live. So acknowledging that if there was a limitation of days to live, people should still be doing what they've been doing before. They didn't have that time. So that's really amazing that you walks people that can. I ask you a question your lady and then we'll wrap on this. So what if you didn't leave your mark on the planet? Would your life being a less valuable? No, or you list me? Okay, so you could stop doing what you're doing and still leave your mark, because it doesn't have to look the way you think it does. Right, it's going to look what you feels. Right. I hear that performance model in you already, because I recognize it in myself, and I'm like a not that it's bad, it's regnize. Okay. So what if you didn't make your mark? You being here is enough. You already made your mark. You showed up right, whether you become the next greatest thing on podcasting media, that's to be the term emin in as an experience you get to have, but you being here as a spiritual being who decided to come down into the finite, into being human as a being, then that's enough. That's your value, and I'll leave you with this thought. We're all grains of sand, of the beach of God. God doesn't exist without the grains and the grains don't exist without the beach. You're here, you are a grain of sand, and so am I. The beach already exists your valuable period. Even if you never do a podcast or never write another book, never speaking on the stage again, that would be my offering, for you are already dynamic. Thank you. You're welcome. Like acknowledging about the beach and and the grain of sand. As you said, we're all grains of sand and without the beach that wouldn't be sad, and if no one was here, then that wouldn't be an island. But God was still exist and and still a piece of God as a grain, no matter what, even if you're on Mars by yourself. Thank you so much for being on the show. Is there a website or social media that anyone can go and follow you one? Yeah, again, you can go see me at Travis Fox three hundred and twenty two, on Instagram, facebook, twitter obviously on on Linkedin as well. You find me there under our Travis Fox architect to being. But the easiest way is just go to architecting. Three hundred and six Zerocom you'll find all the stuff that's free right there. You'll say everything that we're doing, all the things that we've discussed here. But free quiz is coming to experience architecting. I promise you, once you experience it, will never go back. You're recognized. Is Not a coach that you need, it's you to be your own coach and show you how to be an architect. Once you're an architect, you can architect a life, you can artect lifestyle and you can earn what you learn. You don't come out in dead, come out ahead, and that's the trick. Like there are so many tips on what Travis has said and I hope you guys really taken what he's been saying and also take a different perspective of what architecture is. So architecture isn't just having a blueprint for a building, because you can have a blueprint but, as travis folk said, it won't always come out the way you expect it to. Also to have a blueprint for your life. You don't know what is going to be expected in your life. But always be open because, like, there's one of the things I said into in my story book called Edwards Marvel as discovery, which is coming out as well, is that be open to anything because you don't know. Even if it's a bad thing, it can change your experience and you will look at a life in a different perspective. So thank you so much for coming on the show and and I hope you guys learned a lot from what travis has been saying and remember to go and...

...visit his websites and all of his social media and thank you so much, Travis. Bye Bye.

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