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Episode #28: Douglas Vermeeren Film Maker of “How Thoughts Become Things” movie

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Yasmine Ben Salmi interviewing Douglas Vermeeren Film Maker of “How Thoughts Become Things” movie


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Over the last two decades Douglas Vermeeren has conducted extensive first hand research into the lives of the worlds top achievers. He has the success strategies of top business leaders from Nike, Reebok, Fruit of the Loom, FedEx, KFC, United Airlines, Microsoft, Disney and others to share with you. ABC television and FOX Business refer to him as the modern Day Napoleon Hill.


In addition, he is the producer and director of 3 out of 10 of the top personal development movies ever made. He is the producer of The Opus (featuring Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Joe Vitale, John Demartini, Marci Shimoff, Morris Goodman, Bob Doyle and others.) The Gratitude Experiment (Bob Proctor, Marie Diamond, John Demartini, John Gray) and The Treasure Map (John Demartini, Loral Langemeier, Raymond Aaron, Marshall Sylver, Randy Gage.)


He has authored 3 books in the Guerrilla marketing series and is creator of PERSONAL POWER MASTERY which is rated one of the top personal development programs in the world providing powerful tools to companies, individuals and students.


He is a regular featured expert on FOX, CNN, ABC, NBC, CTV, CBC, The Huffington Post, NY Daily News and others.


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Bull. Hi there everyone. Welcome back for another episode of Life apping. Jasmin, I'm your host. She hasn't been Sammy, and today I'm here of a very special guest, and his name is Douglas Vanmaron, and he's a creative of a new movie called how thoughts become things. So it's okay. You introduce themselves to all listeners. I love to well, it's exciting first of all, be with you, guys. I love your family. So my background is is when I was a young man, I decided to go and start interviewing some of the world's top achievers, and so I got to about four or five hundred of them and I'm still interviewing them today. So that idea that your network really is not only your net worth but everything in your life. Like, you will become like the people you surround yourself with. So at a nineteen year old age, that's kind of what I set up to do and since that time now we've produced this will be movie number four. So we produced three movies so far. That features some of the top thought leaders in the world sharing their advice on a variety of subjects, but this one's all about thought. So we're pretty excited and it's doing very well and we're great for people like yourself. They're helping us to share it. Thank you, but is amazing and I can link down your movie so that everyone can go watch it. Guys, it's an amazing, amazing movie. So let's move on to the first question. So all your success habits? Wow, that's a great question. I think the greatest successes start, you know, obviously here right. I love what Stephen Cuvey said in his book seven habits of highly effective people, that any public victory that you create actually starts with a private victory. So you really need to learn selfdiscipline and I think one of the coolest ways to begin selfdiscipline, I know this is going to sound crazy, but it's to go to bed early and to wake up relatively early. So when we have these late nights till, you know, sometimes midnight or one in the morning or two, that should never be a habit because it really disrupts your ability to be disciplined to think correctly. And then, of course we should wake up early. Now I'm not going to tell you wake up at zero in the morning or maybe even five, but you should wake up earlier than others so that you can get control of your day. You don't want to ever start in a reactive state. You want to be the one who decides where you go. And I know this is another one that's going to sound really, really silly, but every day you must make your bed. Yeah, because making your bed as a form of discipline. If you get one job downe in the beginning, your mind automatically sees that you like completion, you like to get things done, and I think that that's really something that, you know, sometimes people don't really think about some of the other habits that I think are really important. The most important maybe, and we talked about this a little bit in the movie, is the things that you surround yourself with and the people that you surround yourself with influence everything that you think about yourself. And so if you're in a chaotic or messy environment, or, let's just say even the things that you bring into your life are not wholesome or uplifting or inspiring to you, or things that make you want to be a better person, you're going to have a hard time being a better person. Because I love what Marie Diamond said in the film. She said that everything we surround ourselves with is like a threedimensional vision board and it really goes into our mind. And, by the way, that can even include the video games that we play, the movies we watched, the music we listen to, the website we visit. If we bring in things that are not uplifting and helping us to become better than by default, we're putting in things that are holding us back. Yeah, and one of the things also about that idea of influence is, again, the people we surround ourselves with, the networks that we belong to. And I think I'm if I were to really look at my life carefully and say what was it the me, the biggest difference is for me to become more successful than I was, it would really have to do with the kinds of people that I chose to surround myself with. I always looked for...

...people that I could learn from with that inspired me or people that could help me or people that believed in me, and I looked to spend more time with them. I'm not saying I didn't spend time with people that were maybe, you know, grumblers or you know, had negative antea. Sometimes there are those people, but we choose to spend time with people who are more inspiring, and that's what will happen in your life, will become more inspiring. Is Amazing, like that's someone the things that you said to make your bad that's one of the things that I do like when I wake up. And also to surround yourself with, like the people who would help you in life, because when I was in school, I used to surround myself people who were like had a lot of pain, because I thought that if I found myself with those people, then maybe I can teach them to hell. But when my mom told me, like it's a good thing that you want to help people, but sometimes when you surround yourself with people who have pain and hurt, then that's like something that will happen in your life or people have p people to a pain in your life with those. So that's amazing. That's very, very wise that your mum told you that. The other thing that you know that's really interesting with that is if you think about yourself looking to help people, think of like a lifeguard, right, like someone who's sitting by the swimming pool and he wants to help people. Well, the truth is is a lifeguard number one has to know how to swim before they can help other people, and so you must always be learning and becoming, you know, better in yourself. But at the other idea of this is if you're a lifeguard, where do they sit? They sit on a chair. They don't sit in the pool with people hoping to kind of figure things out. They sit at a point where they can see to be more helpful. And so I think sometimes where there's people who are, you know, struggling and challenged, it's it's it's important to go and help them, but it's also important that we understand that we cannot like kind of mix and mingle with some of the things that have caused their difficulties. We need to be outside of those difficulties. In order to help someone. You can't really lift someone up unless you're on the same levels them. Right your you can't lift someone up if you're on the same level. You need to be higher in order to lift someone higher. But is amazing, amazing words. So the second question is, what mistakes have you made along the way that and why? What did you learn from them? How long is your show? I've made many, many mistakes. Wow, you know, it's interesting. Is I just was listening to an interview with Sarah Blakeley, the girl that invented spanks. I don't know if you know of her, very famous entrepreneur who started the company for only Fivezero dollars and took it to multibillions and still growing. And I love what her her father told her when they were growing up, when the kids would come home from school, most parents say so what happening in your day to day? Tell me about your successes, tell me about the things that you did amazing and I love what her father used to say. He says, tell me about your failures. What did you try this week and you fail that? I want to know about those, because I think most times most of us play it safe and we don't try things that are going to, you know, be maybe challenging for us and difficult, and so I think that the thing that most people have as a failure, and maybe I had it too when I was younger. I don't think I was bold enough, I don't think I believed in myself enough, I don't think I tried things that were hard enough and I think I gave myself the easy excuse, escape route to be safe. And so I think that's probably the biggest mistakes that I've made. And Heaven knows, I mean I, I, I still am making mistakes all the time. I think it if you're not making mistakes, you're not really improving. So yeah, I don't know. I don't even know if I have a favorite mistake, but there's there's, there's enough out there that. Wow, one of these days I'll write a book. You know how people have have that like a CDA record that says the greatest hits. Maybe I should have one called my...

...greatest mistakes, my greatest failures. Yeah, it'd be a double album for sure, right. which you want to listen to that? Yeah, yeah, so that's amazing what we talk about. Well, her father did for her because, like, if you don't acknowledge your failure, is how you're going to learn, if you like, when you grow up and something, for example, like somethinking of business, crashes and you don't really use that as a failure. You acknowledge that as something going wrong. When you don't yes the things that go wrong, then how would you learn from your other mistake? So that's an amazing thing that I've father did for her. Very cool wasn't it? Yeah, and so our next question is what was the hardest decision you ever had to make them? Why? Wow, that's a really good question. I've not really thought about that and you know what's funny is, because I haven't thought too much about it, I think that the answer I'm going to give you may not be the best answer, but I'll give you one. I think probably for me, the one of the pivotable decisions, because here's the thing. When we're talking about decision, what's the most important decision? What's the most like important? I guess moment of Your Life. It I think it's the moment that's going to, number one, affect the most people, it's going to affect the most in your future and it's also going to have the most impact on your future. So the thing that shifts and change, what's the one moment will obviously decision. And I think for me probably the biggest decision was as as a young man, when I first read thinking were rich for the first time, I decided I wanted to interview the top achievers. I wanted to learn what they had to teach and I think for me I had no idea that I was ever going to become a speaker. I had no idea what was ever going to make movies or right books or talk to people. Even when I started to do that, I didn't really see the consequence of that decision. I just wanted to learn from some of these really important people, and so that decision to do that open up all the other possibilities. And here's maybe just something to think about the decision. Two things. One, everybody generally makes decisions based on where they are, not where they want to be. Right. So, if you, for example, when an opportunity comes and you say, well, I don't know enough, I don't have enough time, I don't have enough money, I don't have the skills, I don't and you look at what you don't have, that's how you'll always remain, because if you say no to this new opportunity, nothing will change. But if we say I would like more money, I would like more opportunity, I would like the only thing that's going to change that as a new decision to do something different than you've ever done before. So that's really important. But with that in mind, I think we need to think carefully about big decisions, decisions that are going to make a big difference. Like, for example, the decision of what color shirt am I going to wear today? Tell you truth, probably doesn't make a big, big difference, right. But the person that you are going to maybe spend time with as a best friend, or maybe even the person maybe that you've married, or the or taking a course or in school. What route an education am I going to take? These are big decisions and we need to think more carefully about them. There's a saying that says happiness is a choice, meaning a decision, but I think that that's only the beginning. You See, lots of people make choices and they're not very happy, but at the time they thought they were making a good choice. So it's important to not only look at the choice, but happiness is a choice, but also being very content and at peace with the consequences. So I think it's important that if we're going to, like again say, pick a course that we're going to take in school that's going to lead us through our life, think about the consequences. Will you be happy with that choice or with a set of friends? If, if you choose to be with them, will you be ultimately in the end happy because you chose to spend time with those people. So I think decision is something where we really need to look carefully at consequences before we get too far deep into them. Yeah, it's amazing, like I even have notes and what you said...

...from the movie about decisions as well, and like what you explain before, that some people look at a decision as they cover a like current situation, but decision all to do with the future at like whose life you're going to impact next? So is a and so the next question is, what's that should people follow to help them to heal, forgive and to then go on to a life lived with gratitude? Wow, that's a great question and this kind of reminds me of our second movie, the gratitude experiment, and I think that I really love gratitude and I guess one of the first things to understand is that gratitude is actually the most gratitude and love are the most powerful forces in the universe. There's nothing that's stronger than gratitude and love, and sometimes it's very hard to findalse things. If we've been hurt by someone, if something hasn't gone as we planned, and in fact I've got a brother and I was speaking to hi yesterday. He's been working for a company for twenty years and yesterday they let him go, no warning, no notice, and in fact they didn't even telephone and they sent him an email and they just basically said, after twenty years, your services are no longer required. Right, because I think because of the virus, people are having the downsize, right. Yeah, and and I think that that would be really hard. So you know how, after giving someone twenty years of service, how easy is it to feel grateful that you're now let go? And maybe even there might even be feelings of I can't forgive those people. I gave so much of my life to help them succeed and this is what they do. And so I think finding the ability to be grateful and finding the ability to to forgive, I think we need to first of all recognize that it's okay as a human to feel either sad or frustrated and have those initial feelings of pain and regret because it's something you cared about, it something that you were connected to, and so when there's that severing or that connection that's now gone, whether it's a relationship or something else, it's there. It's okay to feel pain for a little while right, and then, I think, once we can get through that and see things for how they really are and begin to feel gratitude, those feelings can then come. But the other thing I maybe want to say about forgiveness is that forgiveness, and how should we say it? It's important to be cautious with some things, even after you forgive them. So, for example, if someone is abusive or hurtful to you, it's okay to forgive them, but that doesn't mean you have to jump right back in right. Forgiveness doesn't mean you have to accept that behavior. Forgiveness just means really, that you choose to let it go and that you choose to not participate or be part of it. And you you know, you you, you don't have to carry ill feelings towards that person or event, but you also do not have to put yourself back into it, and I think that that's also part of forgiveness. And if I could maybe say it this way, when we talk about forgiveness, we often talk about forgiving other people right, like this person hurt me, so therefore I can't you know, I'll forgive them and but I don't associated with them. One of the other things I think that's important. Forgiveness is that when we're in a situation where we feel like we've made a mistake or again we've been hurt, or maybe we feel we've been part of that creating that. So forgiveness also includes forgiving yourself right and saying it's okay that you made that mistake, it's okay that you went through that. But part of forgiving yourself is also recognizing your worth as a young woman, that you are valuable enough that you should not subject yourself to those kinds of things again, and forgiving yourself means recognizing your individual worth right. So I think that these are important things and wow, this is a long conversation. Obviously, in personal power mastery we get more into some of these feelings, but I think that, you know,...

...wherever we are, whatever circumstances we can be in, we need to learn how to be grateful from the inside out so that gratitude is not dependent upon you are the things that we have or or there the things that are going on positively, because all of those things can change. You can lose your job, you can lose a loved one to death or sometimes people get divorce or there's other challenge. So if our our gratitude and our feelings of excitement and value are placed on people outside of ourselves, we always run the risk that somehow we needed to disappointed. That is amazing. Like when I was in school, there was like a lot of people that would like hurt me and do stuff to like bring them down, but then was like one girl there was something that happened between her another person and she thought that I was involved and she actually slapped me, but I thought that I'm sure you did that in like anger frustration. But then, like the next day, I forgive her and I became friends. But when I told my mom about that, she said to me that's not forgiveness, that's just being the need to have someone around you and forgive me. Yeah, and what you're saying like to let go. Like I went from yere five all the way to hear yes six, be still being her friend after her like doing many stuff to me, like she would get me in trouble in school, but like those little things that I thought that maybe people can be forgiven for because maybe it's not intentional, but they just thought of it like just to do it to someone. But that's very like. I shouldn't have that back, Queen. Now and in school about forgiveness. Wow. Yeah, you know, your mum kind of told me a little bit about some of these events too, and I have to tell you that my heart broke when I heard that, because you're just such an amazing young woman and you're so special and the thing that I hope that you recognize about yourself through this as again, we can't always control the actions of others and some people, we must admit, really don't behave very well sometimes and it can be very hurtful and painful and I'm sure even at that time it really tore at your heart. It really hurt you, I'm sure, inside. But I think the biggest lesson is to to recognize that you are special and you are loved and there are many people that care about you, and I think one of the things that isn't important kind of what we have someone that hurts to us. We've got to remember that hurt people hurt people. Yeah, so there must be something going on in her life that has nothing to do with you and you just happened to be the person that she chose to take it out on. But even though that person is hurt and we can forgive them, it's not always our duty to to heal that person, right. And so I think how we see this delicately and gently. We do our best to care for everyone that we can, but some people will just not allow us to do that. Some people deliberately choose us that they're not interested to be loved or care for or they've got something inside them that they need to resolve before they can receive that. So what I'm saying is is don't feel obligated that you have to force someone to be loved, to feel loved. If they will not receive the gift right, then we wish them well and we're going to stay out of their way. So so the next time when they explode that, well, they can, they can find a private place to do that by themselves without us, right. Yeah, thank you so much. And so the next question is I absolutely love watching how thoughts become things if my family, and I wanted you to tell like people, the people who are listening, why it's important to watch how thoughts become things with families. Oh, that's a...

...really good question. In fact, I'm a strong advocate that. What do we say that as we learn in groups, then we have support, we have accountability, we have people that can help us. One of the things about being human, I think that most people, you know, start to understand, is that it's never a constant uphill. Right, like once we say I'm gonna do it, it doesn't just mean it's easy now, right, like you made the decision, you're going to do it and it's easy. Back I've got behind me kind of a dry ray sport here just to kind of show life has tendency really to kind of go like the heart owner machine, right. So there's ups and there's damn mounts all the time. If it was in a straight line, it was always easy. We don't that means that means you're dead, right, because that's the heart machine when we're dead. And so we've got to understand that in order to get through not only these parts, because we often talk about the difficult parts that we need family and friends to help us and support, but I think it's all so important at these parts when we're just kind of average, for our family to say you can do better than that, right, you can rise higher than that. Don't stop at just the average, right. So it's not just family helping us when we're down, but they need to help us when we're average. And of course, it's no fun to get to the top unless you've got someone to share it with. In fact, one of my favorite experiences in my life is I so you need family everywhere. That's what I'm saying. But one of my favorite experiences in my life was this. I lived in China for about a year and when I was in China, we were invited to go climb a mountain called Bhutai Shan, which means the five peak, five peaks mountain, and these are like very much like fingers. So you've seen it in the movies where there's these thin, tall, tall amounts like that. So they kind of look like fingers, right. And so we started out early in the morning, at about four or so in the morning, to start walking up the mountain so that we can see the sunrise the whole time we're going up, and it was just beautiful, right. But there was this one gentleman who is part of our little tour group that we're going up, and he was he would always run ahead and he would run ahead and say I know the way, follow me, run ahead and of course the rest of the group would slowly kind of follow and we'd stay together as a group. I mean we were making good time, but this guy wanted to be at the top immediately, so he kept running ahead and then he'd wait a little while, then he run ahead and after a while we didn't see him for a while, so we figured he must have really gone ahead. So we got to the top of the mountain, the highest peak, and as we got up there we didn't see this guy. The guy wasn't there. He wasn't anywhere to be seen right. So we didn't really know. Like we're not worried about him. So one of the guys is taken took the binoculars and he's looking around to all the other mountains and looking down and suddenly on a lower mountain we saw this guy and he was there now waving and but you could see he was kind of disappointed what had happened because he tried to do it by himself. He accidentally turned a wrong way and ended up going up the wrong mountain and so he was on a much lower mountain than us. He never got to go to the top because he decided to go by himself. Now here's the interesting thing that I noticed two things. One, as I was on the mountain, I was here with my friends. We got to take pictures, we got to enjoy it, we got to talk about it and we got to see what it really looked like. But as I look down at this gentleman by himself on a lower mountain the wrong way, he just kind of looked around and, you know, took a picture too. Didn't have anybody even talk about, didn't have anybody to share it with any just kind of sat there for a while and looked. Then he got bored and then all the hard work that he had done to get to the top of the mountain, he just started down. But we spent a couple hours up there as a group because we had people to share it with, and so it was much more fun and much more exciting. So I think it's important that people watch movies like how thoughts become things as a family, that you do it as a group, that you have also people who can make you accountable, who can make...

...sure the implement it in the right way, in the right directions, that when you get to the top, you can share your victories and when you get to the bottom, you can help each other and when you get to moments where you just kind of floating down, you're not really doing too much, you can spur each other on to be more successful and I think that that's one of the coolest things that you know, if you look at any success in the history of the world, it's always been by a group, a team, right, people who win gold medals, even though the athlete gets it, it's all his coaches, all his nutritionists, all his other teammates, everybody's pushed him. When Neil Armstrong walked on the moon, there were hundreds of people who would help build the rocket and help build, you know, the what he called the lunar module. They landed it and helped to be there in Houston as they guided the space shall. Everything, everything in life that's created successfully is done by a team, and so I think it's important get a team, get a family that will support you. That is amazing, like one and provobs that my mom said with me was alone you can go fast, but together you can go far. And what you're saying when the man thought that, when he would go alone, he can reach the mountain with the top of the peak before you, guys, and he didn't. Well, that's like a tea, like a teaching that my mom taught me is that when you go together, one can go a separate way, but when you're together, like as a group, you will find your way. So that's yes, it's definitely true, definitely true. Yeah, that's fun. So thank you so much for being a part of my pot and life, according to Evan, and thank you so much for your time. It's it. It's there, like a message that you'd like to share of our listeners. Well, I think one of the coolest things is, how will you we now twelve. Yeah, that's what I that's what I thought. I think it's neat that we have young people who are out there trying to again make the world a better place. So I want to celebrate you. That's one of the biggest messages of today, and I also want to say to any younger people that are watching, hey, you can do the same. Get out there. You you don't have to wait till you're an older person. Now, having said that, I want to now talk to the older people who are looking with jealousy at a young person, saying, Oh man, I wish I would have known this and that was little. If I had started what I was young, wow, I think where I would be. And the truth is is our journeys are all unique and individual and you're exactly where you're supposed to be right now for what comes next. So always recognize that what is about to come is going to be amazing and make it so get out there and do everything that you can. I was reading the other day a thing that showed all the different ages or some of the top entrepreneurs in the world, and the interesting thing is as nowadays, with the way that the Internet is, there's more and more people who are starting younger. Yeah, right, so I think I think this is awesome. So go out there and be amazing. That's the thing, right, that's your mission. Be Amazing. Whatever it is that you want to do, give it your all and live with no regrets. Right, just go. Well, it s a bust, must move. And is there any things that helps you to achieve your successes that you have today? Yeah, I get I think it really comes down to surrounding yourself with amazing people and then the things that you're excited about. Study those, learn those, read every book you can on them, watch every youtube, video and seminar that you can on the things that you love. Right. Don't clutter your mind with too many things that you don't love or that aren't important, but the things you love really dive deep, dive, dive real deep. And so before we go off, is it okay if you like leave a couple of links or pages where people can find you? Yeah, I'll just...

...share probably the easiest. We've got to really good tools for free all over the Internet. So you can go to youtube. You can type in my name, Douglas Vermieren, in Youtube and I've got a channel and we got all kinds of really cool stuff there. I'm also on instagram and facebook and Linkedin and all of the regular social media. Again, you can type in my name. I think the only one that's a little bit different is on twitter I'm at Dun vermieren rather than Douglas Vermier and everything else is Douglas. And then, of course, come see the movie how thoughts become thingscom and I know you've got a link for that. And Yeah, that's the best way to find us. But come and enjoy and we've got lots of fun free stuff to share. Okay, so I'm after this interview. I can link down everything down below so that everyone can find everything. And thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much for your time. Had An amazing time we view and the people who are listening like please this in and taking like what Douglas has said, and especially for decisions like that's one of the things that I used to think decisions were based on your current situation, but decisions are based on what your future like, what your future can hold for you like. What what is the next person you're going to help or inspire? So thank you, thank you. Thank you so much, Doug, and you as time in the next episode by but bye.

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